Today, classes resumed and it was freezing. I decided that I needed some chai tea and naturally ended up at my favorite coffee shop. I usually pay with a debit card but today I decided to pay with cash.
This coffee shop always has two tip jars out. Your tip is used to cast your vote for whichever jar you prefer. Questions in the past have been coffee or tea, batman or superman, or which emoji is your favorite.
But today, the question struck a cord with me. The question was are you excited for 2017 or are you afraid of 2017. The word afraid stuck out to me; so much so that I took a retrospective look at the rest of my day.
Questions raced through my head for the next couple of hours. What do I want for 2017? Do I want to stay where I am? Do I want to let fear of elevating consume me? Or do I want to get excited about the new year? I finally realized I have a clear choice in front of me.
I know what jar I chose for 2017, do you?
I try not to be an advice giver but sometimes it just happens. I like to help others, and while I am usually quite the listener, sometimes I just start giving out advice. Sometimes, it’s wanted and well received, and other times, not so much.
Today, I am here to give you some advice. It’s your decision if you take it or leave it. What you put out in the world is what you will get back. Some call it karma, I call it life.
I honestly believe that we get what we put out in the world. I believe that whatever energy or vibe or whatever you decide to call it is what you get back. When I lived a life full of isolation and negativity, that’s what I received. Now, this is not saying that people were being outright negative and left me in the dark. It’s saying that love and appreciation surrounded me, but I was not ready to see it because of the guards I put up and the energy I surrounded myself in.
Surround yourself with the vibe you want to get back. It’s your conscious choice. Positivity and happiness are downright contagious. You can have it if you want it enough. It may take a lot of work, but it’s worth it. Eventually, it becomes second nature. Just because everyone around you consumes negativity, doubt, and pessimism doesn’t mean you have to follow that path.
Choose love. Choose laughter. Choose life. Choose happiness. Want rainbows and butterflies and happy songs and chocolate. Be around those that bring out the best in you and encourage you to be your best self.
And as for the rest, let it fizzle out. It isn’t necessary to shut down and cancel the negativity or friendships or “bad stuff.” Simply lead the way with the vibe you wish to have and the rest will settle to how it’s meant to be.
Okay, my advice giving is over now. Enjoy the rest of your day and don’t forget to smile!
Love and light,
I am declaring today my first rebirthday. Today also happens to be World Mental Health Day, how ironic. So, what exactly is a rebirthday? In my mind, I think of my rebirthday as the day where I woke up and started living again, so basically waking up and starting new.
I battled with bipolar disorder, generalized anxiety disorder, and major depressive disorder from my senior year of high school up until what would have been the end of my freshman year of college. For me, this felt like a century. Days seemed like months, and months felt like years. I was miserable.
My transformation/rebirth/new life/whateveryouwanttocallit didn’t happen overnight. I will probably say this in all of my blog posts, but it’s true, it took a lot of time. It took awhile to stabilize after getting off my meds. It took some time to start feeling like myself again after feeling like a walking zombie.
During the summer of 2015, I started getting back into the swing of things, but I still struggled. I was still lost and confused. I didn’t know my purpose or have passions. The major difference was that I was willing, I was starting to wake up.
One year ago, in October of 2015, I got my mojo back. I started laughing, smiling, and dancing. I was excited, and my eyes lit up when I talked about my passions. After going to a retreat in Arizona, I met my life coach and started a transformation class with her. I was so freaking optimistic, and it was fabulous. This opportunity gave me so much positivity. I was unstoppable. I was ready to change my life for the better, and I did just that (and more)!
I honestly feel like one year ago I woke up from the darkest place you could ever imagine and got to start anew with life. I truly feel like I was given a second chance and that is why I declare October my rebirth month.
I have transformed in a million ways since last October. Waking up and transforming is such a beautiful thing. I love every part of my journey, and I am so happy to be where I am today.
I look back on my past and am proud of that I endured. What I went through showed me strength and authentic bravery. I am not remorseful or angry. I don’t feel like I missed out or wish I could get time back. I know it has all served a great purpose.
It takes time to find yourself and find your voice, and there is nothing wrong with that. I encourage you today to make a list of gratitude and stick it under your pillow. If you can’t think of anything, write down what you wish for, give it some good vibes, and tuck it away for the day.
I will leave you with my favorite quote to wrap up World Mental Health Day. “There is no path to happiness; happiness is the path.”
Humans need other humans. We like having tribes and enjoy feeling like we belong. Belonging to someone or something can be hard when you are growing up, especially during your teenage years. Sometimes, we lose our sense of belonging. Sometimes, we feel like we never find it.
For so long I searched for completion. I sought completion out in many forms from friend groups, boyfriends, diagnoses, and even materialistic things. I thought I needed completion. I wanted to feel “perfect” and needed to be complete.
Then it hit me. But it wasn’t like an ah-ha moment or anything like that. It took time, a lot of time. I finally realized that to live a life of purpose, passion, and connection I needed to feel complemented, not completed.
I didn’t need a boyfriend, a fancy outfit, or popularity. What I needed was to realize my worth. What I needed was to enjoy my presence and let that be enough. What I needed were space and acceptance. And with that, I started attracting my tribe. I found where I belong.
I didn’t come into this world with a partner or with a tribe. I came into this world pure and alone (in a good way). I am always loved. Until I fully embraced this, I felt lost. By embracing this wholesome love and state of being, I have opened the doors to a new life full of awesomeness.
Be with those who complement you, not complete you. Say you are eating chocolate and add a spoonful of peanut butter, because it felt right. The peanut butter didn’t complete the chocolate, it was already complete. The peanut butter simply complemented it. You define yourself. You are enough just as you are. You are complete, and you are already a whole, perfect human.
Don’t forget that.