Dishes Don’t Define Me

FullSizeRenderMy dishes don’t define me. I used to let the number of dishes in my sink define how my day would go. I would let the dishes dictate my mood and self-worth.

It may sound silly, but boy is it true. I want you to know that dishes don’t define me, and they shouldn’t define you.

I have worked really hard on shifting my mindset about this. Not to toot my own horn, but I have pretty much mastered this concept internally and with myself. 95% of the time, I am the only one who is around my dishes. So I can waste a lot of energy worrying about if they are done, or I can enjoy my life. I almost always choose to enjoy my life.

Having dirty dishes means that I have cooked healthy, wholesome food. Having dishes means I have nourished my body and soul. Doing the dishes does not define me.

But there is still that other 5%. Sometimes, I have visitors. Most people don’t give a crap about my dishes, and if they do they don’t say anything. But today, someone did say something.

I had a visitor and they made a comment. I let this comment define me. I let this comment dictate my day. So while I have 95% of this situation mastered, I still have a spot to heal.

I needed to take time to dig deeper. I realized that no matter how big or small the situation, it all serves a purpose. Dishes are dishes. They will always be in the sink or in the cabinets. The choice is always mine. I can let those damn dishes define me or I can determine my own destiny: dirty dishes or not.

Go with the flow or just google it.

Just Go with theI vividly remember spending the night at my cousin’s house growing up and my aunt saying, “just go with the flow.” At 9 years old I didn’t understand what she had meant. Go with the flow? What does that even mean? I was such a curious little girl, and still am to be quite frankly. I wanted to understand so badly what go with the flow meant. Now, at 20 years old, I now know that that to understand this mantra, you must let go of your grasp.

So many questions run through my mind on a daily basis. I have always been one to ask questions. I want to understand and I want to know why things are the way that they are. I not only want to know why the sky is blue but why a microwave turns clockwise one minute and counterclockwise the next. Let’s just say I am very thankful for Google and smartphones. These applications are great and very helpful in some cases like dreaded research projects but do they really help us go with the flow?

I have been guilty of stopping conversations dead in their tracks by saying “just google it.” Now, looking back, I realized that isn’t how I want to live my life. I would rather go with the flow than google it. The choice is always mine. I can stop the natural flow of life by googling it, or I can embrace it and figure it out myself.

Curiosity is a beautiful thing. There is beauty in wonder and beauty in problem-solving. By googling everything, especially in the middle of the flow of life, we will never figure out answers for ourselves. In fact, we will miss out.

Do you go with the flow or just google it? Are you happy with that? Remember, you always have the choice to shift your mindset.