At 20-years-old it finally hit me that life isn’t meant to be perfect. Life is intended to be enjoyable. Life should be settled into, loved, and appreciated. If one is always worrying about the fine print and meticulous details, it is inevitable that you will miss out. I would much rather look back on my life at 80, and laugh about my experiences rather than frown on the mistakes or mishaps. I used to take life so seriously and put an ample amount of pressure on myself. Ain’t nobody got time for that.
I now only allow time for the good in my life, forget perfection! As cheesy as it sounds, it’s true. I surround myself with love, laughter, and genuine sparkly people every single day. While it is true that I cannot control every situation or individual that I come in contact with, one thing is sure; I can bring my best self to the table.
Now this isn’t always easy, and it doesn’t make sense all of the time. Bringing my best self forward doesn’t mean that I am perfect or that I am happy 24/7. It just means that I am me. I accept my flaws, imperfections, and quirks for what they are. To be quite honest, I have learned to love these things about myself, and have never been happier!
While this may be “too positive” for some, it has worked wonders for me and my ever growing confidence. Just a year ago, I had little to no self-confidence. I hated when someone would take my picture or tell me to smile. When I took selfies, they looked sad and were always in black and white.
I was tired of living a lifeless life. I had to start by making simple shifts in my life. These have built up over time and led to genuine happiness. It has been a truly wonderful process, and it would be silly of me not to share these small practices with you. The exercises below can take moments or minutes of your day; the choice is yours.
Start with a simple shift this week to curb perfectionism. I found that in my transformation, small changes were the way to go with kicking perfectionism to the curb. My perfectionism was firmly rooted deep inside of me. I wasn’t always like this. From a young age, I taught myself to be perfect. I had to get back to basics with this belief and prove to myself it wasn’t what I wanted when my habits and thoughts said otherwise.
Take a moment this week to sit with your thoughts. There is no set amount of time, but just sit and be. Take note of where your mind goes and when you finish, journal about your experience. Try doing this and see what happens. If this sounds utterly horrible or boring to you, try speaking affirmations.
First, start by looking in the mirror and saying, “Perfection isn’t for me. Life is for me.” Don’t worry; no one is going to watch or laugh at you. Just go with it and see what happens. There is no harm in a little self-love. If you do this enough, you will begin to believe the words you are saying. I was surprised when I incorporated these practices into my day. I hope you will be, too.