You can have your cake and eat it too.

I eat cake whenever I want. If you don’t believe me, ask my sister. I love sweets and I always will.

Let me start off by saying that this is not a post about dieting. It isn’t even a post about cake. I do love cake, though. This is about loving your body for what it is. This is about eating food that fuels your body. This is about moving your body for the simple joy of MOVING IT!

Before I came to these revelations, I fell into the dieting trap. Dieting made me a victim. I was desperate. I never took accountability for myself or what the diets put me through mentally and physically. All I wanted was to be thin.

Diets were too much pressure. I wasn’t mentally strong enough for a diet, and honestly, I don’t know many people that are. You have to be disciplined for a diet to work. You have to think about why you are doing a diet. Are you doing this for you or someone else? Do you even know who you are doing this for?

Are you doing it because you dislike what you see in the mirror? Are you doing it to look good for a certain occasion? That’s why I did it. And guess what, even when I lost the weight and made my “goals,” I still wasn’t happy.

This is what so many people are missing, and I just want to shake them. Losing the weight won’t always make you love yourself. It may make you feel better at first, but the initial feelings you had when you started your diet can and will creep back up.

A lot of my friends and family have been commenting on my recent weight loss. It’s the big elephant in the room. Yes, it is true, I have lost some weight. Thanks, but do we really have to keep talking about it? And no, I will not tell you how much weight I’ve lost. I honestly have no idea. I do not own a working scale, nor do I want to own one.

Talking about my weight with people who are in the dieting trap turns into a subconscious competition. It turns into a never-ending race that I do not want to be involved with. I want to tell you that you don’t have to do this anymore. If you needed a sign to stop your latest diet, HERE IT IS!

So, what is my secret? You’re in luck; there are no secrets. I just went back to the basics and followed the Intuitive Eating Principles. I started focusing on my hunger cues and honoring my body for what it is. I made peace with food and stopped healing my feelings with food.

What I am trying to say is that you CAN have your cake and eat it too. You CAN have a body that you absolutely love, and indulge in your favorite foods. Today is the day that you stop letting diets dictate your life. Find joy and love within yourself, and everything else will fall into place.

Answer this question: Would you ever stay in a relationship with someone who led to feelings of guilt, shame, deprivation and worthlessness until you were down 20 pounds? Take back your power and start standing up for yourself. Create a loving relationship with your body. I don’t know about you, but I’m glad I broke up with diets.

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